You Can’t Dance Unless You Let Go
Posted in Interviews on July 5th, 2011 by Vlad – Be the first to comment
A conversation with Nipun Mehta conducted by Vlad Moskovski
For the last fourteen years, Nipun Mehta and a team of dedicated volunteers have been revolutionizing what it means to embrace generosity and bring it into daily life. CharityFocus has inspired thousands of people around the world and include projects such as: Smile Cards, Karma Kitchen, Karma Tube, and many more. CharityFocus is an experiment in the joy of giving and together this community works from the intent to “be the change we wish to see in the world.”
Vlad: Is there an underlying philosophy to CharityFocus that informs everything you do?
I think one of the core underlying values is that everybody has something to give. This goes against the grain of our dominant culture. Even early on when I was giving, people would tell me, “You have to have something before you can give. Go out and get some money and then you can give.” But that is a reductionist view of giving. Yesterday, I was talking to a woman who is really engaged with the deaf community. A typical response of our dominant culture is, “Those guys really need to learn how to talk and communicate” and she is saying, “Maybe that’s not the answer. Maybe they have different gifts.”
Another friend was telling me a story of talking to a homeless guy who treated him to a coffee. It was so profound for that fellow to *receive* that cup of coffee from a homeless man. And he does it every time they meet. Someone did something really nice for that homeless man once and he was never able to thank them but now he wants to pay it forward. Underneath this coffee is a certain kind of inner transformation. That’s one of the fundamental pillars of CharityFocus, that in any situation, you can manifest a heart of service.
Vlad: What is the connection of generosity and spiritual growth?
Before you practice any act of kindness you have to have an intent and our capacity to deal with the subsequent thoughts is what manifests spiritual insight. Regardless of what happens at the external level of impact, that inner transformation and insight is ours to keep. This is why sages say that it doesn’t matter if you give a million dollars or a penny — what matters is *how* you are giving it. And when you approach it in that way, generosity is a great catalyst for spiritual growth.
All of a sudden life looks very different. Everywhere you are trying to say, “Where can I give?” Even if you can’t give anything, the fact that you had that thought carries the potential for inner transformation. To be generous you have to recognize interconnectedness between you and the other. First step along this generosity path is a sense of sacrifice or even faith. If I give something away, I’ll have less of it, so you need to figure out a compelling reason for you to suspend your selfish tendencies. The second step is to realize, “Oh, when I give, I actually receive.” The third step, after you’ve done a lot of giving and receiving is to see it as a dance — sometimes you may give a lot, sometimes you may receive a lot. It does not matter, you are just doing a dance and you can’t dance unless you let go.
Vlad: There is a big focus on doing small acts rather than big ones. I think the quote you share from Mother Theresa is, “We can do no great things, only small things with great love.” Do you think this empowers people?
Surely. If we look at the world through the lens of inner transformation, it really does not matter how big or small our act is. What matters most is that we are in the space of inner generosity. When we continue doing ‘small acts with great love’ and we hold that space within us, it starts to shift our deepest sub-conscious from a me-orientation to a we-orientation. Our culture tends to admire those who do big things and we often create halos around them but really that just points to our own insecurities about sub-consciously wanting to be powerful like them. When we let-go of that and start being we-centered, those patterns come undone. If you really break it down, all those people in positions of leverage are just doing the same small acts that you and I might be doing. They might have come together in an elegant way or in a way that is very visible or has created a dramatic impact, but that is just happenstance. If we get caught up in that, we lose the capacity to be still and hence to love. So the keyword in “small thing with great love” is love; small is all there is, but it is love that shifts our orientation and empower us.
Vlad: What I hear is an element of humility.
Gandhi used to say, “I am less than dirt” and a lot of people look at that and say, “Oh, he is so humble.” He is not trying to be humble — he is actually lower than dirt. We are all dirt that has come together for a short period of time and that is going to disintegrate again. We are constantly integrating and disintegrating and in that whole unfolding, our highest capacity is to be an instrument of a Nature and our lowest capacity is to be an instrument of our ego. Ego leads to separation and isolation and everything seems like an uphill battle. But when we are instruments of nature, when we see ourselves as we really are — lots of molecules arising and passing in each moment — and become catalysts for something much larger than the ego. In its early stages, that creates a sense of humility, but over time it becomes a way to be natural, to be inter-connected with life and to be a servant of a constant emergence.
Vlad: How has meditation influenced you?
Without meditation, I would be in a very different space and CharityFocus would have taken a very different trajectory. Meditation has given me a view of my inner landscape, of my mind, and that’s been priceless. It shows me that how I’m aware of a very small portion of my mind and yet each of my daily decisions are influenced by my subconscious parts. That’s a jarring insight. It means we’re basically throw darts in the dark and hoping to find happiness. People smoke even when they know it’ll cause them intense suffering. Why do we do it? Because of the heavy yet subtle conditioning of our mind. It pleases our senses in the short-term, so we are taken by it. We do that with all our subtle habits too. Meditation, then, helps you see that clearly. And not just see it, but also realize the depth of that problem and ultimately start to unravel it. Its very humbling endeavor [laughs] but also invaluable.
Even more troublesome, for someone like me, is that the problems that meditation uncovers aren’t going to be solved by putting them on your todo list. Getting milk from the store is easier, creating revolutions is easier, changing other people is easier … than changing yourself at the depth of your being. That takes a lot. The real revolution is the inner revolution. When we serve and allow “what is” to do its natural dance, that’s a revolutionary act. Sometimes things work out just the way we want them, sometimes they work out exactly opposite how we want them. It’s all good. We have to just stop putting a spin on it. It’s not positive thinking, not negative. The problem is thinking it self. These are simple things to say and very hard to put into practice. [laughs]

Vlad: What is the direction you see CharityFocus going?
Really, the main thing I’d like CharityFocus to do is stay true to its values. With that foundational strength, it’ll be fun to see how we can get creative with the power of inner transformation and shift our cultural narrative towards greater generosity. For example, after the earthquake and tsunami in Japan, there was no looting. People were civil. That was not the work of some nonprofit organization telling everyone, “Ok, please be good. Don’t fight.” No. It happened because of their culture, because of the 5000-year plan of their ancestors. In 5,000 years, people are not going to remember a building or an organization; they are going to remember values and if those values are aligned with our basic human nature, and in way that generosity clearly is, then its going to survive. So I hope that CharityFocus continues to work a 5,000 year plan and continue to plant seeds for tress we will never see.
For more info visit:
CharityFocus (incubator), DailyGood (news), Karma Tube (videos), HelpOthers (kind acts), Conversations (artists), iJourney (wisdom), KarmaKitchen (US), MovedByLove (India), CFSites (technical)























