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Meditation Guide: Simple Mindfulness Meditation Techniques

Vlad Moskovski — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 20:17:21 +0000

One possible definition of meditation is the systematic training of the mind to focus inward thereby bringing it under our conscious control. For many beginners, meditation can be frustrating and difficult causing undue stress as opposed to relaxation. The mind is active, constantly seeking to understand, examine, and discuss. This becomes all the more apparent when we try to sit still for some time. There is a common misconception that we do meditation in order to silence the mind, however this is actually a byproduct of meditation, not the goal. To use force on the mind to silence the mind using the mind is a contradiction and generally leads to frustration and discontent. A friendlier way of approaching meditation is to think of our time on the cushion as a practice of observing the mind. With less ambition and more determination we are cultivating curiosity and awareness rather than force.

If one wishes to learn to ski, we do not start by going straight to the most difficult obstacle course and trail, instead we focus on our technique. We practice basic maneuvers on the “bunny slopes” and then gradually make our way to the more difficult trails. Similar in meditation, one must develop the groundwork and maneuvers in order to progress and learn. Here are a few simple meditation techniques that provide training for the mind, allowing us to relax and enjoy meditation. Try one, or several of these techniques and once you find one that works, practice it consistently and frequently – results will come.

Single Object Meditation: Start with something simple and not overly graphic, like a candle or a pen. Begin to gently gaze at this object and think about the object, the structure, the shape, color, size, anything that is related to the object. As you do this, feel yourself becoming physically and emotionally entangled with the object. After a comfortable time gazing, close your eyes and see the object in your mind’s eye. Hold it there for as long as you can until it begins to get fuzzy or starts to fade. Once you have determined that it has faded, or is significantly altered so that you have to imagine or recall from memory the object, open your eyes and repeat the process again. I find that very visual people are able to do this easily and find this exercise to be fun and non-visual people have a very difficult time holding the object for even five seconds. If you are one of those people who have a very difficult time with this, keep practicing on a regular basis and you will improve dramatically. This is a preliminary exercise and can be beneficial to practice for a few weeks before trying the other three techniques.

Develop the Watcher: Take a small part of your attention and assign this part the task of watching everything that flutters through the mind – without judgment or criticism. Imagine this part as a video camera that records everything, to be stored and analyzed almost immediately after it occurs. As you begin to develop this ability, you can notice thoughts, stories, narratives, emotions, reactions, and many other processes going on in your mind. This form of meditation, sometimes referred to as mindfulness can be practiced anywhere and anytime. It is essential that we do not criticise or condemn what we see, imply observe and grow in awareness and depth. With clear awareness, comes insight, understanding, and the power to change.

Mantras: A powerful and easy technique to conquer internal dialogue is to repeat a words or phrases over and over again. By concentrating the mind on these specific words, all other thoughts are cast aside. There are many sacred mantras that exist in the world but the most important factor in choosing a mantra is that we cultivate an attitude of deep reverence for the words – as if they are sacred. In some traditions, mantras are whispered into students ears and the students is to keep this mantra secret and never speak it out loud.

With time and practice, the mind will begin to quiet down and only the breath and the mantra will be heard. Once this state is achieved, there is no more need to for the mantra because all intruding thoughts have been cast out. Over time, just a few conscious breaths and the thought of the mantra should be enough to clear the mind. Clearing the mind is of course not the end goal of meditation, rather, it is the state that enables you to begin meditation; this is where deep self-exploration begins.

Breath Awareness: Once a comfortable and steady upright posture is established, bring the attention to the belly. Notice how it rises and falls. In the beginning, one or both palms can be placed on the abdomen to bring awareness to the sensations there. Focus the mind on the breath as it moves in and out, and as soon as the mind becomes distracted, without judgment or distress bring it back to the belly and the breath. This is probably the simplest and one of the most commonly used meditation techniques in the world. Breath awareness and mantra repetition can be combined to further train and focus the mind. One example would be to say “In” on the in-breath and “Out” on the out-breath.

Back Pain Relief Through Yoga

Vlad Moskovski — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 18:52:06 +0000

Frequently I find myself a victim of what I call DIM Syndrome or diving into monitor syndrome. I think everyone has experienced this to some degree or another – its that feeling of a slow gravitational sink, pulling and falling head first into the computer monitor. And before you know it, the shoulders are hunched over, head leaning forward and back arched – a hunchback in the making.

Millions of people experience the negative side-effects of DIM Syndrome. Everything from sore neck to headaches to the ever-popular lower back pain can be traced to bad posture and unhealthy sitting habits at the computer. Lets face it, the human body was not designed to sit for hours at a time in one spot and stare forward motionless. But, since we all must work, and most of us must work at a computer, there are several habits that we can break free of and others that we may wish to adopt in order to keep our health and our sanity.

Sit Straight:

The spine has a natural curvature and is assisted by involuntary muscles and tendons along the spine. These muscles are linked to the same system that keeps our eyelids up and our lungs moving without our conscious awareness. Through bad habits we have programmed our bodies to tense additional smaller muscles to take on the work of the automatic ones. This is exhausting and causes unnecessary strain and tension in the body. By paying attention and experimenting with slight adjustments in the hips, shoulders, and head we can bring our body into a more natural alignment thereby activating the involuntary muscles and relieving the overworked ones.

While sitting in a chair, locate the sit bones. They are the two bony ridges of the hip bone that are meant to take our weight. To do so, simply experiment with tilting the pelvis forwards and back. Notice how this effects the curvature of the spine, and specifically the lower back. A proper alignment of the hips happens when the tailbone (the lowest part of the vertebral column) reaches down towards the ground/chair while the pubic/lower abdominal area moves up and inward. This action will naturally reduce some of the curvature of the lower back creating a flatter lower back and cause a slight shift backwards so that the weight of the body is distributed onto the sit bones. This adjustment also strengthens the abdominal muscles which assist the back muscles in keeping the spine erect.

Shoulders:

Having adjusted the lower portion of the body, next come the shoulders/chest. Explore the range of motion in the shoulders moving them forward and back. Notice how the forward motion of the shoulders pulls on the muscles of the

upper back and tenses the neck. Imagine somebody taking both shoulders and lifting them forward, up, and back. Let both shoulders melt down the back. Repeat several times, inhaling forward pausing at the top, and exhaling to melt. Do this often throughout the day and you may see a dramatic reduction in stress and tension in the neck and upper back. Another way to think about this motion is to lift the chest.

Head:

Moving onto the head, let the head become heavy and begin to move the head side to side, the up and down, and finally in big circles. Notice how good this feels on the neck muscles. Again here, work with the breath and breath into the area of tension, one can work with images of warmth or relaxation if that feels appropriate. A neutral spine means the head is shifted slightly back and the chin slightly down. One can also imagine a string tied to the top of the head and somebody lifting us by that string. This will cause the spine to elongate and straighten, the shoulders to move back, and the head to shift back.

Breath:

While our breathing is automatic, it is also intimately linked to our emotional and mental state. In moments of intense emotions such as anger or sadness, this becomes self evident. Because computer work requires such concentration, many people tend to hold their breath or not breath as deeply as mother nature intended. Just by the act of stopping whatever we are doing, noticing the rhythm and depth of our breath, and then taking a few deep slow breaths we can reset our system and bring more vitality and oxygen into our bodies. This actually effects our brain in a very direct way, making us more clear-headed and able to remember, reason, and problem solve better. Try it!

In addition to the negative side effects on the body, computers put immense strain on our eyes. Click Here learn simple eye exercise designed to strengthen, relax, and sooth the eye muscles and the optic nerve.

Also see my article for changing bad habits.

How to Change Bad Habits

Vlad Moskovski — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 22:55:00 +0000

Habits are a reflection of our thoughts, manifested through repetition of actions. Right habits can be our greatest aid on the path to freedom from desires and fears, but bad habits can become obstacles. They can bind us, constricting our mobility, limiting our choices and our thinking. The challenge in being awake, aware, and present is to watch our own actions and analyze them. Ask yourself the question, “What in my life do I do by habit, and how are these habits serving me?”

Awareness is the essence of of our being, our birthright. But sometimes we forget, get distracted with life and the many responsibilities that take up our time. Here are a few ways that we can change bad habits by brining awareness onto the present moment.

1. Memory triggers

A memory object is a place, person, or thing which we designate as a trigger for the immediate assessment of our internal state. For example, lets say there is a painting hanging over your desk, whenever you look at that painting that is the trigger to stop and bring awareness to thoughts, emotions, and the surrounding environment. Awareness is objective, it is without blame or judgment – a simple observation of the facts. Paradoxically, we are building a habit to become aware of our own habits.

Doorways are a good memory objects because we go through hundreds of them every day. Upon walking through the doorway, immediately come into the present moment and bring awareness to the five senses to soak in the new surroundings. Remember to notice!

2. Breath

We must breath to live, it is something real, concrete and ever present within ourselves. Breath awareness is one ofthe fundamental steps to raising awareness, learning meditation, or any other internal study. Take a moment right now to focus on the breath. Notice the subtle qualities of depth, speed, location in the body, and even the texture. As often as possible throughout the day, remember to bring attention to the breath. Become curious to discover what is the quality of the breath when there is anger, sadness, joy, excitement, or calm?

Explore, have fun, be playful in figuring out what works best for your life and circumstances. Keep in mind that for these techniques to be effective one must be vigilant to remember to practice consistently, frequently, and for a long time util awareness becomes a natural state of being. Many negativities can be compared to shadows, they are a the darkness outside that stem from within. Awareness and mindfulness is the sunlight that has the power to drive away this darkness. Simply remember and let the sun shine.

Wise Quote about Life

Vlad Moskovski — Mon, 31 May 2010 22:35:49 +0000

For those times when you’r just not sure what to do, when your feeling lost and confused, here is a quote just for that occasion.

” Life gets better when your headed in the right direction,

And you’l know its right because you’re sure enough to be unsure about,

But never unsure enough to not do it “

From Frogs into Princes, a book on NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programing

Wise Quote from Taoism

Vlad Moskovski — Sun, 23 May 2010 03:37:20 +0000

The Tao Te Ching offers us many insights into how to live and go about our day. The simplicity and wisdom is encapsulated in short poetic stanzas. This is one of my favorites because it relates the the practice of non-attachment. A core principle in Yoga philosophy that has brought me much joy and has made great difficulties a little less difficult.

In the pursuit of knowledge, every day something is added

In the practice of the Tao, every day something is dropped

Less and less do you need to force things, until finally you arrive at non-action

When nothing is done, nothing is left undone

True mastery can be gained by letting things go their own way

It can’t be gained by interfering

(Stanza 48, translated by Stephen Mitchell)

Wise Quote for Mindfulness

Vlad Moskovski — Sun, 16 May 2010 17:58:47 +0000

“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they lead to actions. Watch your actions, they create habits. Watch your habits, they build your character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” ~Upanishads Related posts:Wise Quote from Taoism Wise Quote about Life Meditation Techniques: Mindfulness Joy of Being Present Related posts:

Four keys to happiness and inner peace from the patanjali yoga sutras

Vlad Moskovski — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 03:26:47 +0000

From my favorite yoga book, the Patanjali Yoga Sutras, comes a few gems of wisdom that help me retain my happiness and inner peace when deal with people. By putting these attitudes of mindfulness into practice I have saved myself a lot of emotional pain and built many wonderful relationships. In order to maintain our peace of mind we need to consider the four types of people in the world that we may encounter and the four ways to approach them.

When encountering a happy person, be kind and friendly to them. Often when people see someone who is happy, their initial reaction is to feel jealousy and dislike for that person. They may even blame that person or “that type” for their own problems. This attitude never does us much good. While that person may walk away, we are burning up inside with hatred and rage against that person. Instead, be friendly and think, “Wow, how nice it must be to be that happy, isn’t it wonderful. I want to be that happy also.” Frequently, people think of emotions as something that just comes up, as if they have no control over them. But like anything else in life, the more we practice something the better we become so always strive to practice positive emotions of joy, friendliness, and kindness.

The next type of person that we may meet is the unhappy. When we meet such a person, we can practice compassion for their situation and perhaps try and help them if this is within your means and appropriate for the situation. I am frequently astounded at how much I can do just by acknowledging somebody, offering them a smile or a helping hand. Somebody may be having a bad day or upset about something and they may be very focused on the story going on inside their head. Just a bit of compassion can snap them out of their mental misery and bring them into the present moment. Sometimes it takes just a little – to do a lot.

Then there are the virtuous, these are people that we can learn from and look up to. With these people we can show delight and admire them for their virtuous qualities. Don’t try to criticize them or pull them down, you will only cause yourself mental turmoil. Instead, find the qualities that you wish to possess that they have and use that person as your role model. They will be flattered and might even offer you some guidance or advice.

And lastly, there are the wicked people. Every once in a while we will meet such a person and the best thing to do is to stay away from them and disregard them completely. There is a story of a small sparrow that has built a warm and cozy nest in preparation for the rain and across from it is sitting a monkey. As the rain starts, the sparrow is dry and happy in it’s nest while the monkey is getting drenched. The sparrow decided to offer the drenched monkey some advice on how to build a nest but instead of gratitude, the monkey becomes enraged thinking that the sparrow is proud of it’s position and proceeds to tare the sparrow’s nest apart. The sparrow has to fly away and it too gets drenched in the pouring rain. When you recognize such a monkey, do not try to help it or offer it advice, it will always result in disaster. The best thing to do is to disregard them – they must learn on their own.

With these four keys of friendliness for the happy, compassion for the unhappy, delight in the virtuous, and disregard for the wicked, we can approach any situation with a peaceful mind and maintain our calm.

Best book on Taoism: The Tao Te Ching by Stephen Mitchell

Vlad Moskovski — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:44:00 +0000

There are two books that I treasure above all others in my life. I have already written about the first, it is the Ptanjali Yoga Sutras by Swami Satchidananda, this book is the second.

I have flipped through many different versions and translations of the Tao Te Ching, but this one always strikes me as the best and clearest of them all. The author has had years of experience as a Zen practitioner and meditator. I believe that this background and experience has helped him understand the deeper meaning behind the paradoxical language found in the Toa Te Ching. Stephen Mitchell himself says, “I have often been fairly literal – as as literal as one ca be with such a subtle, kaleidoscopic book… If I haven’t always translated Lao Tzu’s words, my intention has always been to translate his mind.”

I have had this little book for many years and it never ceases to amaze me just how much insight and perspective I can gain from re-reading just a few passages. Sometimes, I just open it at random to a page and read it, like a horoscope for that day. Other times, I search greedily for the passage that moves me and re-read it over and over again until it is burned into my memory. Like a soft whisper in my mind, the lines come back to me when I most need them to remind me to stay present and embody the Tao in my life.

The word “kaleidoscopic” seems very fitting for such a book because there are are hundreds of lessons or paths that you can take to understanding. There are 81 stanzas in total, and yet there is mainly one bold and central idea that underlies all passages. Lao Tzu wants to make sure that the reader really gets it. Even though he then laughs at the idea because it is not a matter of “getting it” but rather using it.

To quote another passage, “The Tao is like a bellows: it is empty yet infinitely capable. The more you use it, the more it produces; the more you talk of it, the less you understand.”

I frequently think of this book as a spiritual instruction manual. Its not philosophy, its not psychology, rather, its like an Ikea manual for assembling a lamp or table. Of course the Ikea manual will give only enough instructions on how to assemble the object, while the Tao Te Ching gives 81 instructions – often referencing “The Master” or one who is in alignment with the Tao. Thus, this is a unique spiritual book unlike any other simply because it was written to confuse the intellectual mind. A rational and reasonable person will find this book frustrating, certainly illogical, and quite possibly even useless. It is a brilliant way to filter readers and pass down wisdom without having the original message garbled up. This book is a gem of wisdom, its no wonder that it has survived all this time and continues to inspire new generations of readers. A few final words from master Lao Tzu.

“In the pursuit of knowledge, every day something is added.

In the practice of the Tao, every day something is dropped.

Less and less do you need to force things, untill finally you arrive at non-action.

When nothing is done, nothing is left undone.

True mastery can be gained by letting things go their own way.

It can’t be gained by interfering.” (Stanza 48).

My first OBE (out of body) experience

Vlad Moskovski — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 01:56:25 +0000

Many people have spontaneous out of body experiences, they can be sudden, extremely frightening, and traumatic for someone who is not well acquainted with OBE’s. Sometimes, such experiences are so incredible that they radically change a person’s view of the world. Here is such a story described vividly by my friend Andrey. I decided to publish this because for those that have had this happen to them, it may be helpful for to read about it similar experiences. Enjoy!

I was trying some relaxation/yoga exercises before going to bed, and as usual was falling asleep. Except that there was something different about it this time. I’m guessing I wasn’t all the way asleep, and right before my physical body gave way, my mind woke up. I felt intense and warm electric vibrations come over me from legs upwards, my mind felt unbelievably clear, and thinking just didn’t occur to me.

I remember this very well – I could consciously not think. It’s kind of hard to describe, but my mind seemed to be separate from me, as well as my body. It was like looking at a bowl of soup and consciously choosing not to stir it. So as the vibrations were coming up my legs into my torso, my heart started to pulse VERY intensely. It wasn’t my physical heart, because it felt a lot more in the center rather than to the left. And by VERY intensely I mean REALLY REALLY VERY INTENSELY! I have never felt anything like that before. The whole body was engulfed by the “vibrations” and was pulsing. I was actually an energy body that expanded/exploded and kept pulsing and growing, while the physical body was shrinking and laying there like some kind of dead shell.

All of a sudden (still with intense vibrations and my heart pulsing like crazy) I realized that I could see through my eyelids, and not just that, but that I could see all around me and the same time! And not just seeing, I could FEEL everything around me with clarity and alertness beyond anything I’ve experienced in the physical world. Everything felt very fluid, alive and was radiating different kinds of energy. I was able to tell what a chair felt like, and the table, window and the fish drawn on my wall. Everything was radiant and alive.

My usual physical-sense world seemed like some gray, boring, pointless dream. I raised the right hand of my energetic/ vibration body and swiftly pressed the wall next to me, seeing how energy was flowing from that spot in ripples, much like a stone tossed into a pond (that’s standing up vertically). At this point I got very excited, and I my physical mind started to wake up with all it’s patterns. With that, an immense fear came all over me, and I was terribly afraid of my heart exploding.

I tried to move my body and put my physical arm to my heart to check if it’s actually beating this fast! (It’s hard to estimate the beat rate in a rather timeless place, but if I had to, it would be something like 10-15 beats a second). But, of course I could not move my physical body – it was paralyzed, because I wasn’t in it, and the fear got even worse. I pushed down all of the vibrations, feelings and vision rapidly vanished, and I jumped into an upright position (physically now) with my hand slamming into my heart and tears pouring down from my eyes. My physical heart was beating rather slowly.

This was the first of such experiences that completely changed my life.

Reducing Stress At Work – Neck and Leg Relaxation

Vlad Moskovski — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 19:45:58 +0000

Sitting in a chair all day can be hard on the body and frequently leads to stiffness in the neck, legs, and lower back. Remember gym class in school when we had to do those pesky stretching exercises. Well, guess what, they are actually crucial to keeping your body relaxed and ache- free. For every hour that we sit in a chair, at least a few minutes should be spent taking some time to relax the body, and clear the mind. Here are a few simple ways to do this without looking like a fool in front of your co-workers. In fact, doing these exercises in public, in your office just might inspire others do them too!

Start by looking away from the compute. Ahhh, isn’t that nice. Take one deep breath and let it out as slow as possible. Rotate your neck, moving it up, down, left right, side to side, and add in some circular motion. Make sure that you are breathing long, deep breaths as you do this, keep the motions in sync with the breathing to prevent injury. Now, with another long inhalation, stand up and let your whole body straighten up. Make sure that you don’t do this too fast, letting the spine, shoulders, and neck fall into their natural and comfortable alignment.

With another long inhalation, begin to fold forward from the hips letting your whole upper body relax completely until you are hanging. If your hands touch the ground, great, if not, no big deal. Now, as you hang there, take a moment to notice the backs of your legs, are they tight? If so, you can bring your attention, your thoughts, and your breath to the spots that are tight and begin to breath into the tightness. After a few moments you should feel the hamstrings relaxing a bit and loosening up. The legs are the key to the back, if they are tight, the rest of your upper body will be also.

Try to notice when you have sat for too long, and take a few moments to work with your mind, breath, and body to relax and release some stress. Because all three are linked, when you change one, you will effect them all. There are of course thousands of ways to stretch, just remember to synchronize and let the breath do the moving. Get creative, have fun, start a conversation at work about this topic. I bet you will have much to talk about with your co-workers regarding this subject.Sitting in a chair all day can be hard on the body and frequently leads to stiffness in the neck, legs, and lower back. Remember gym class in school when we had to do those pesky stretching exercises. Well, guess what, they are actually crucial to keeping your body relaxed and ache- free. For every hour that we sit in a chair, at least a few minutes should be spent taking some time to relax the body, and clear the mind. Here are a few simple ways to do this without looking like a fool in front of your co-workers. In fact, doing these exercises in public, in your office just might inspire others do them too!